In the world of wedding photography, there’s a moment I look forward to every single time: opening an inquiry from a new couple. It’s the beginning of a story — your story — and I always feel honored when someone imagines me as part of their wedding day.
When you reach out, you’re not just asking for prices or availability. You’re sharing little pieces of your dream: the venue you fell in love with, the way you imagine walking down the aisle, the emotions you want captured forever. And for me, answering that inquiry isn’t a copy-and-paste task. It’s a moment of real connection, even before we’ve met.
That’s why it hurts when everything suddenly goes silent.
The Emotional Labor Behind a “Simple Quote”
Many couples don’t realize how much energy goes into preparing a personalized wedding photography quote. It’s not just numbers on a PDF — it’s time, intention, and heart.
When I create a proposal, I think about:
What kind of coverage makes sense for your timeline
Which moments you’ll want to remember for the rest of your lives
How to make the experience smooth, meaningful, and stress-free
How to align my vision with your personality and style
All of this takes time, but it’s time I love giving — because each wedding is unique, and every couple deserves a thoughtful, tailored response.
But when the message is sent and… nothing comes back… it’s hard not to feel that the effort I put in didn’t matter.
Ghosting Isn’t Just Silence — It’s Disconnection
I know wedding planning can be overwhelming. I know you’re comparing different photographers, different packages, different prices. That’s normal. That’s healthy. You need to find the person who feels right for you.
But ghosting, disappearing without even a “thank you” or a “we went another direction”, has a weight to it.
For photographers like me, who pour time and emotion into each inquiry, ghosting can feel like:
A missed opportunity to connect
A lost chance to understand your needs
A moment of self-doubt: Was the quote too high? Did I misunderstand something?
An unfinished conversation that could have led somewhere beautiful
And perhaps the saddest part is that ghosting eliminates one of the most important steps in choosing your photographer: meeting them.
Before Saying “No,” Give Yourself the Gift of a Video Call
Before deciding that a photographer isn’t for you, book a video call.
Just 10 minutes. It can change everything.
Photography is deeply personal. Your photographer will be with you during your most intimate, emotional, unforgettable moments. You’ll laugh with them, cry near them, trust them with memories you’ll pass down for generations.
That kind of connection can’t be measured through:
A price list
A PDF
An email
A single Instagram post
The true magic happens when you meet.
When you see their eyes light up as you talk about your plans.
When you feel the warmth in their voice.
When you notice, even through a screen, that you feel safe, understood, and excited.
I’ve had couples who thought my quote was too high — until we talked.
I’ve had couples who weren’t sure I was the right fit — until they saw how we connected.
And I’ve had couples who booked instantly after a video call because “it just felt right.”
A video call isn’t a commitment.
It’s not pressure.
It’s simply a chance to feel if we’re aligned — as humans, not just as client and vendor.
Even a “No” Is a Kindness
I will never be upset if you choose a different photographer.
Everyone deserves the right match, and the most important thing is that you feel completely comfortable with the person who will capture your memories.
What I ask — gently, respectfully — is for a reply.
Even a short one.
Even a simple:
“Thank you for the quote — it’s not in our budget.”
“We’ve chosen someone else.”
“The timing doesn’t work for us.”
“We realized we want a different style.”
These small messages mean so much.
They help me understand.
They help me grow.
And they close our conversation with kindness, not uncertainty.
Connection Matters More Than Cost
Your wedding photos will last far longer than the flowers, the food, or the dress. They become your legacy. So don’t choose your photographer based only on price or speed of email replies.
Choose someone who makes you feel:
relaxed
understood
inspired
valued
connected
And give yourself the chance to discover that connection, through a simple video call.
In the End, We’re All Human
Ghosting isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding.
Wedding photographers are human beings who care deeply about the couples they work with. We celebrate your happiness, your love story, and your trust. We are there not just to take photos, but to support you, calm your nerves, and preserve moments you’ll never get back.
Communication, even brief, even imperfect, keeps that humanity alive.
So if you’re planning your wedding, my promise to you is this:
I will meet you with honesty, warmth, and zero pressure.
All I ask in return is communication and a chance to connect before you decide.
And who knows…
Our 10 min. video call might be the beginning of something beautiful.